The phrase “boundaries, not barriers” captures the essence of healthy, functional relationships with both yourself and others. It’s about creating a structure for healthy interaction, not building a wall to prevent it, i.e., it takes deliberate and clear communication. Here’s a breakdown: The Core Difference Boundaries vs. Barriers: A Comparison Characteristic Healthy Boundaries Unhealthy Barriers …
I have a question for you. But before I get to that, let me say a few things about motivation. We all intuitively know that change occurs one step at a time; that accomplishing a goal takes work, requiring us to put one foot in front of the other as we move toward any goal. …
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Dan Harris just posted a discussion he had with Dr. Bruce Hood (Professor of Developmental Psychology at Bristol University). I found it a very useful conversation with some real strategies, i.e., things we can all implement and try out. Many of the things they discuss are not new; for example, you will find that they …
One of my favorite meditation teachers is Jeff Warren (you can also find him on the Calm app or Dan Harris.com). I’m sharing two free guided meditations he lead, you can try each of them out on YouTube. If you like them, check out his other content that I’ve linked here in this paragraph. For …
As a psychologist, I’ve worked with couples and clients dealing with relationship challenges. As a partner, nearing 25 years of marriage, I’ve faced these challenges myself. However, there are real strategies you can implement to make lasting relationship improvements. Here are 5 to consider.
Resilience is our ability to adapt well during adversity, trauma, or significant stress – essential skills in uncertain times. It’s not about avoiding hardship but navigating through it effectively
Finding a purpose that is authentic to you can be transformative—and it doesn’t have to be some grand goal like curing a disease or founding a company.
Outrage fatigue can wear us down—but we can take care of ourselves in an onslaught of overwhelming news.
Even if a so-called “negative” emotion is showing up in our experience, e.g., sadness, anger, loneliness, et cetera the feeling is typically there for a reason. Instead of pushing on it with resistence or even trying to avoid it (insert your favorite dopamine hit here), can you turn toward it with a bit of curiosity and ask it, “I notice I’m feeling ____, what are you trying to tell me?”
A quick note to start off 2025. Here are two episodes from a couple of my favorite podcasts that I enjoyed recently. I found them helpful and hope you will too! The first one is a discussion about the importance of fun, the cultural distortion of emotions as “good” or “bad,” and how envy can …